Alfi is 4!


This is a pretty belated posted dedicated to Alfi who has recently turned 4 less than ten days ago. Alfi is the portmanteau of my boyfriend, Alphonsus, and myself, Fiona, in case you don’t already know. I address Alphonsus as ‘Bf’ on my blog posts because I’m too lazy to type out his long name everytime I have to mention him. Lol, just kidding but yeah convenience is one of the reasons.

I shall not be naggy and reiterate how we first met because I had already documented it here. Instead I shall update on our progress. Since that blog post, the relationship wasn’t smooth-sailing and we even broke up for 3 days – his first time initiating ever – recently because of my temper, unreasonableness and irrationality. I agreed to his request but regretted immediately and tried to win him back thereafter. I used to hurl insults at him, assume without first understanding his point of view and then scream at him. He was hurt but his love for me never diminished. He continued to care for my well-being and supported (majority of) what I did. Somehow silly me never noticed any of these and distanced myself even further away from him because I didn’t want to be too emotionally dependent on him. But I didn’t realise that by doing so, I am also causing us to grow apart from each other. We didn’t speak to each other for 6 days prior to the breakup (ironically after the Batam trip) because of a very minor issue. I started it and that was his last straw. Thankfully after trying for 3 days, he agreed to come back on the condition that I change my attitude towards him. For the first time, I took the initiative to salvage the relationship. Throughout the years, he was always the one doing the job. From that, I truly comprehend the meaning of “失去了才懂得珍惜” (you only appreciate what you have until you lose it).

Losing him would also mean losing his family, who had been treating me really well for the past 4 years. They even asked me out for dinner when they knew about the breakup, hoping to find out what happened and also to talk out of me. I sobbed like nobody’s business uncontrollably at Crystal Jade (where we dined). I’m so glad it’s not going to ever happen again, I swear.

Putting the sad past behind us, I’m all ready to make a fresh start. 🙂

Us over the years 🙂

First photo of Bf and I when he was wayyyy slimmer =X This was at Haibin Prawning Place and before we got together.

(2009) First photo of Bf and I when he was wayyyy slimmer =X This was at Haibin Prawning Place and before we got together.

(2009) We had gotten together and I'm glad he doesn't mind camwhoring at well. Very seldom he would move away from the camera lens when I attempted to take pictures :)

(2009) We had gotten together and I’m glad he doesn’t mind camwhoring at well. Very seldom he would move away from the camera lens when I attempted to take pictures 🙂

(2010) We love frozen yogurt and we still do. We would always get the largest size possible (unless it's self-weighed).

(2010) We love frozen yogurt and we still do. We would always get the largest size possible (unless it’s self-weighed).

(2010) Our first NDP parade together but sadly it was only preview and.. he didn't get the tickets for free. He paid for them because I wanted to go. :')

(2010) Our first NDP parade together but sadly it was only preview and.. he didn’t get the tickets for free. He paid for them because I wanted to go. :’)

(2011) At my graduation ceremony, Singapore Polytechnic. He wanted for me to leave the auditorium under the scotching sun because I didn't have enough tickets for him. Thanks for waiting dear.

(2011) At my graduation ceremony, Singapore Polytechnic. He wanted for me to leave the auditorium under the scotching sun because I didn’t have enough tickets for him. Thanks for waiting dear.

(2011) Still in Bangkok but we took this photo for a reason. To remember the beautiful asses in the background hahaha.

(2011) At one of our many (Asian) holiday trips.. This was in Bangkok and we went with his family. He wanted to take with the cub so bad. Look at his grin LOL.

(2011) Still in Bangkok but we took this photo for a reason. To remember the beautiful asses in the background hahaha.

(2011) Still in Bangkok but we took this photo for a reason. To remember the beautiful asses in the background hahaha.

(2012) In Beijing which I was very unwilling to go because it's China - thought there was nothing much to shop there. But I was wrong. Beijing changed my perception of China. Sadly it changed again for the worst after my Chengdu trip.

(2012) In Beijing which I was very unwilling to go because it’s China – thought there was nothing much to shop there. But I was wrong. Beijing changed my perception of China. Sadly it changed again for the worst after my Chengdu trip.

(2012) In Taiwan, our most favourite holiday destination so far. We aim to go back again this year or mid next year. Let's do it!

(2012) In Taiwan, our most favourite holiday destination so far. We aim to go back again this year or mid next year. Let’s do it!

(2012) At his graduation this time. Unfortunately there wasn't any proper pictures of us on the camera. We did take pictures but it was with Polaroid camera (which pictures are kept by him)

(2012) At his graduation this time. Unfortunately there wasn’t any proper pictures of us on the camera. We did take pictures but it was with Polaroid camera (which pictures are kept by him)

(2013) Our simple Valentine's Day celebration.. We actually don't celebrate it at all but this photo needs a caption anyway.

(2013) Our simple Valentine’s Day celebration.. We actually don’t celebrate it at all but this photo needs a caption anyway.

(2013) Us waiting for Gordon Ramsay at Newton Food Centre a few weeks back! Hid behind some irritating trees and their leaves kept scratching our skins. Happy we got to catch a glance of the star but sad it wasn't upclose! Left before 7pm because it was too crowded and our view wasn't very fantastic.

(2013) Us waiting for Gordon Ramsay at Newton Food Centre a few weeks back! Hid behind some irritating trees and their leaves kept scratching our skins. Happy we got to catch a glance of the star but sad it wasn’t upclose! Left before 7pm because it was too crowded and our view wasn’t very fantastic.

On 7 August 2013, our fourth year anniversary, we didn’t do much because I didn’t have enough sleep the night before (was rushing to meet my design deadline). There was a 1-for-1 movie deal for Safra members (limited quantity) for and Bf being kiasu wanted to make sure he wouldn’t miss it so we got up early to catch Red 2 at Shaw Lido. Then we ate at my favourite French restaurant, Canele which sadly is falling to the bottom of my charts..

My classic pasta - not very nice. I thought Pastamania's was nicer even though I don't quite like Pastamania either.

My classic pasta – not very nice. I thought Pastamania’s was nicer even though I don’t quite like Pastamania either.

Me and my pasta! Whoa I look rather tanned now.

Me and my pasta! Whoa I look rather tanned now.

Bf and his 4th year anniversary gift - a photo album of 90 photographs taken from 2009 - 2013 :)

Bf and his 4th year anniversary gift – a photo album of 90 photographs taken from 2009 – 2013 🙂

Dinner at Fat Boy's for that day. Really made us fat!

Dinner at Fat Boy’s for that day. Really made us fat!

Bf's customised burger (Make-Your-Own-Burger)

Bf’s customised burger (Make-Your-Own-Burger)

Off-topic but seriously, what happened to their menu? It seems to be shrinking and the quality is getting worse ever since Chef Pang left to open Antoinette (which is now my favourite French restaurant). Their only saving grace in my opinion are their macarons. What a pity. They used to serve really good stuff!

Okay anyway, seeing how tired and sleepy I was, Bf brought me to Healing Touch at Upper Thomson Road for a 1-hour full body massage so that I could relax and sleep at the same time. Yes, he is that awesome.. Thank you dear 🙂 It was really relaxing and the masseuse loosened every stiff part of me. Will definitely go back again if I am not lazy (transport is an issue)

Then we ate at Fat Boy’s which was just a few units away along the same stretch of shop houses. He was always footing the bill without complaints and would insist that I kept my money if I offered to pay.. Of course if I am financially capable (like when I was working full-time and he was still studying), he would reject the offer more reluctantly. Lololol!

I didn’t have a good semester break.. I lost my lifelong furry friend to heart failure, and many things happened at home. But Bf will always be there giving me advices and shielding me from (more) pain, giving me emotional support. 2 years ago when my furry friend ran away from home, he took a cab all the way from work after midnight just to search for her with me. When he knew I didn’t have time to eat at work (when I was still working at that tuition centre), he went to order Mcdonald’s for me. He knows I feel sleepy all the time, so he got me a box of Brand’s Chicken Essence when I was studying for my papers last semester. All these little details… I only have myself to blame for not appreciating them. But now I will.

Thank you, Alphonsus Neo, for everything 🙂 Happy belated 4 years to us!

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